The Myths:
* A hypnotist has power over you.
* You can be given posthypnotic suggestions
to do something against your moral code.
* If I go into trance, I will not wake up.
* Only certain people can be hypnotized.
* Hypnosis is anti-religious.
* A posthypnotic state lasts forever.
The Truth:
* No one can be hypnotized against their will.
* A hypnotized person will not do anything against their will.
* You are always in control.
* Hypnosis is not mind control, or even magic.
* Hypnosis is a totally natural recurring state of mind.
* There are no religious connotations associated with Hypnosis.
* The key to hypnosis is repetition and posthypnotic suggestions are usually temporary unless reinforced.
Contrary to popular belief, almost everyone can be hypnotized.
Hypnosis is a state of consciousness one enters and leaves naturally all the time during your day-to day experiences. It feels very much like day dreaming i.e., the state between sleeping and waking. Hypnosis is a guided relaxation. In this state of relaxation you are more open to suggestions. In this state (also called alpha) your brain wave vibration rate slows down, giving you access to your Subconscious Mind. While your Conscious Mind is still completely aware of what is going on the whole time, in this relaxed state of mind, your subconscious mind has the ability to accept information given to it by the hypnotist.
We don't have to think (conscious mind), "Oops! Gotta take a breath now!"
or "Time for another heart beat!" Fortunately this is all taken care of by our subconscious----- automatically. Everything that is done for our benefit, originates here. Therefore should a hypnotist make an inappropriate suggestion of any kind, it would be rejected by the client.
A colleague of mine explains to his clients that if he should ask them in hypnosis to rob every bank in town and bring the money back to him, they wouldn't do it. He points out that if this would work, he'd be a very wealthy hypnotherapist! Which he isn't! Our subconscious always has our best interest as its main concern.
A hypnotherapist is a skilled and trained helping professional who helps you use your own powerful mind to increase motivation or change behavior patterns by inducing a trance state. When hypnotized, your mind is operating in its subconscious mode (referred to by some as the "first gear" of the mind).
Prior to hypnotizing the client, the therapist discusses in the goal the client wants to achieve or the problem s/he wants to resolve in detail. The more the hypnotherapist can share in the experience of the client as s/he experiences it, the more individualized the therapy can be and the greater its impact. The hypnotist also prepares the client to enter hypnosis by explaining just what hypnosis is, how it works and what s/he will experience; if you're starting on a trip it helps to know how and where you're going.
Everyone is susceptible (to one degree or other) to suggestion. Your hypnotherapist will guide you through some exercises that will help determine your degree of suggestibility.
Finally, your hypnotherapist will induce a hypnotic state using individualized methods and techniques based on the results of your suggestibility and the nature of your goal or problem.
How do I choose the hypnotherapist who is right for me?
There is no 100% fool-proof method of selecting the right hypnotherapist, any more than there is a guaranteed way to select the right lawyer, physician, accountant, or plumber.
Major sources for finding a reputable hypnotherapist are: physicians, family or friends, the workplace, the Yellow Pages, lists from professional associations, and The International Registry of Professional Hypnotherapists.
A doctor can refer you to a well-reputed colleague or to his or her own hypnotherapist. But there can be no guarantee that the recommended hynotherapist will be suitable for you. Personality factors, particular
problems or differing ideologies may interfere with rapport. The same is true for referrals by family or friends.
Above all, do not be misled by reputation alone. A great reputation in the therapy field is not always based on competence. Sometimes it is fed by publicity and by professional colleagues who have a personal liking for a particular therapist, especially if he or she devotes a lot of time to their organization's interests. The colleagues may be impressed by that therapist's speeches, self-confidence and self-promotion. But do they personally know any successfully treated clients?
Trust your reaction when talking with a hypnotherapist. Shop around. Spend at least as much time to select a hypnotherapist as you would to choose a car. The best criterion is satisfied clients. Ask the hypnotherapist for written testimonials. Any therapist who has been in business for a reasonable length of time will have letters on file from grateful clients. These will be people who have given permission for their comments to be shown to enquirers. Read and verify them.
And be sure you feel comfortable with the hypnotherapist. If you feel uneasy, it may be a sign that he or she is not good for you.
Key questions to ask yourself are:
+ Does he or she seem interested in my problems?
+ Do I feel welcome?
+ Is the hypnotherapist on time?
+ Do I feel accepted?
+ Does he or she treat me with respect?
+ Does he or she appear hopeful?
+ Does he or she ask a lot about me?
+ Is he or she genuinely interested in me?
+ Does his or her office feel like a haven?
+ Does the hypnotherapist really listen?
+ Does he or she seem knowledgeable?
Key questions to ask the hypnotherapist are:
+ Why should I see you, and not one of your competitors?
+ What experience do you have with my kind of problem?
+ What are your professional qualifications?
+ How long have you been in practice?
+ Do you have references?
+ What hypnotherapy associations do you belong to?
+ How soon can I make an appointment?
+ What are your fees?
+ May I bring someone with me?
+ Do you mind if I tape-record the session?
+ Do you play audiotapes?
+ Will you teach me self-hypnosis?
+ Could you treat my problem without hypnosis?
+ Do you use hypnosis yourself?
Experience is a good criterion. Experience both of life and of hypnotherapy. To ask the hypnotherapist questions relevant to his or her experience is a smart move. Has he or she written books or articles which you could read? Respectful hypnotherapists do not snap their fingers at you, nor speak in a condescending manner. They treat you with the importance you deserve. After all, their business depends on you, and others like you, who seek a better life. Lack of respect also applies to improper questions, suggestions or behavior.
And not just about sex. Impropriety also applies to money and morals. In a truly therapeutic relationship you are heard, accepted, understood and guided to strengthen your inner resources. The hypnotherapist is your ally. Not your friend. Not your business partner. Not your guru. And certainly not your lover.
Above-board hypnotherapists will be delighted that you bring a friend or relative with you. Similarly, they will be pleased you wish to tape-record the session because then you can use the tape at home as reinforcement.
Hypnotherapists with your interests at heart will automatically teach you self- hypnosis. It is part of your becoming self-reliant. At the very least, the hypnotherapist should recommend a book like my Health and Happiness with Hypnosis, which includes explicit instructions on how to hypnotize yourself. Hypnotherapy should be tailored to you, the individual. No two problems, and certainly no two people, however similar, are identical. Settle for nothing less than personalized service.
That individualized approach requires a complete history-taking. It is of course impossible in the short time available for the hypnotherapist to learn everything about you. But he or she should know the details of your presenting problem, your family situation, important life events, health condition, fears, likes and dislikes, etc.
Do not be overly concerned with the per session fee. A very low fee per session may sound attractive, but, in monetary terms, it is the total number of sessions which will count in the end. In human terms, becoming well makes even a high fee seem like a bargain.
Beware of any therapist who has a one-track mind. Some therapists
continually find that the origin of all their clients' problems lies in childhood
sexual abuse; others find that all their clients' problems arise from past lives;
others find that all their clients' problems arise from birth trauma, etc., etc.
Not all of life's distresses arise from one trauma, or indeed, from any trauma. Human beings are far too complex and life, fortunately, is far too rich, for there to be one single cause of everyone's troubles. Two questions that concern most people are: How many sessions will it take?
And What is your success rate?
No one can know in advance how many sessions your problem will take to resolve. There are far too many variables, including: the personalities of you
and the hypnotherapist, your talent for hypnosis, whether you really want to shed the problem, what other issues may surface, etc.
Of course, you could specify a certain number of sessions. And some psychotherapists who use hypnosis do set a fixed number of sessions. The pressure of this deadline approach sometimes helps but there can be no guarantee.
Be assured, however, that hypnosis usually speeds up the therapeutic process. What might take months or years of regular psychotherapy can usually be accomplished in weeks with hypnotherapy.
To ask a hypnotherapist his or her success rate is a meaningless question.
Who would tell you her success rate is 3%? In any case, should the
hypnotherapist's rate be 95%, this says nothing about your chances of success. For many different reasons you may fall into the 5%.
For unhealthy habits such as smoking, hypnotherapy is 100% successful for those who really want to change.
A person using hypnosis should practice within his or her professional competence. Thus a dentist who relaxes her dental patients with hypnosis has no business engaging in psychotherapy, unless she has also been trained in that field. Conversely, a physician must be involved when a medical concern, such as pain, is being tackled.
Responsible therapists use hypnosis as a tool. Since it is not in itself a therapy, nor is it a cure-all, you are in better hands if the hypnotherapist is also able to deal with your problem without hypnosis.
Thus, if you are consulting a physician who is using hypnosis to help you control pain, presumably she will have pharmaceutical alternatives with which to help you should the hypnotherapy not work well. But if the doctor is using hypnosis to help you deal better with a disastrous relationship, she is helpless if the hypnotherapy does not work well - unless she has taken special training in couples counseling.
Licensing and governmental regulation over who is allowed to practice hypnotherapy vary from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. Many states and provinces, such as Quebec, have no rules whatever. Others are very stringent.
Remember, to find the right hypnotherapist for yourself, first do your homework about credentials and experience and then -- trust your instincts.
Copyright © 1995-2002 Bryan M. Knight, MSW, Ph.D.
Here are just some of the things you can do with self-hypnosis:
• Change a habit
• Overcome a phobia
• Win a marathon
• Pass an exam
• Control pain
• Calm panic
• Improve concentration
• Enhance your sex life
• End writer's block
• Give a speech in public
• Prepare for a job interview
Dr. Bunny Vreeland – Ventura County Hypnotherapist – Bunny Vreeland serves Camarillo, Oxnard ,Ventura, Thousand Oaks, Ojai, Moorpark and Santa Paula California – Bunny Vreeland provides hypnotherapy solutions for weight loss, hypnosis to stop smoking, IBS, fibromyalgia, stress relief, and more. Dr. Bunny Vreeland can be reached at 800-755-4083 or 805-984-1237 or at www.bunnyvreeland.com
